Why Do We Procrastinate?
It’s a good thing that you have decided to deal with Procrastination by grabbing this book. (Of course if you have procrastinated, you won’t be here right now.)
Yes, it is true that procrastination is not easy to deal with. I understand that it is also very tempting to listen to the first audio in this series and then listen to the others later.
Unfortunately, later always turns into the present. And as we feel the pinch of the present we try to come up with another later to make ourselves feel better that we will get things done eventually. This disruptive cycle continues until we run into serious problems involving broken relationships, lost income opportunities, or even death through sickness.
It is indeed, very scary to think about the destructive aspects of what the effects of procrastination can have on one’s self.
The interesting thing about procrastination, is that procrastinators aren’t born. They’re in fact MADE. What is the difference between a successful person and a procrastinator? The successful person has learned to deal with procrastination. So in essence every single one of us are procrastinators.
So WHY do we procrastinate?
Really it comes down to one very simple reason: we DON’T WANT to do it!
The solution lies in convincing your mind that it is pleasurable to do those things we are avoiding. The only difference between a highly successful person and a heavy procrastinator is that the first one knows how to deal with procrastination more effectively. That is it! Overcoming procrastination is something absolutely anyone can learn.
In the next items in this series we’ll get started. We will identify the three major types of procrastinators and how to begin to overcome procrastination.
How To Finish What You Started
In the last item we started to talk about some of the destructive aspects of procrastination, and WHY we procrastinate.
Today we will identify the three major types of procrastinators.
It is true that busy people can be the worst procrastinators. Every time to speak with them they are busy, busy, busy! Always in a hurry, they are constantly rushing around. In some cases the reason is that subconsciously it makes them feel superior to be doing so many things. But in reality they are simply poor managers of their time.
They are inefficient at time management and often highly disorganized. If this is you then it is very important to take an inventory of what you’re doing, and to improve your organization and time management skills.
However, time management is not the cure. Telling a procrastinator to buy a day planner is like telling someone who is dressed to simply cheer up.
However, improving one’s organizational and time management skills are completely doable tasks. For example, do you understand the subtle difference between doing things right and doing the right things?
If you always seem to have no time and never seemed to be accomplishing your goals, then you are probably not doing the right things. The cause of this is that you are likely task oriented, and need a little shaking up in that area.
Dr. J R Ferrari is the co-editor of Procrastination and Task Avoidance: Theory, Research and Treatment and other researchers have shown similar patterns in habitual procrastinators.
The three types of procrastinators are:
- Arousal procrastinators are thrill seekers, who get a rush from leaving something until the very last minute and then working like a whirlwind to complete the task.
- The second is avoidant procrastinators. They are insecure; they shirk because they fear failure.
- The final type is decisional procrastinators. They seemingly can’t make a decision and in their mind, not making a decision absolves them of the responsibility of the outcome of events.
There are big costs to procrastination and the biggest is usually your health. Colds, headaches, stomach issues, and neck or back pain are just a few examples of the health costs that procrastinators pay.
They lead very stressful lives. And procrastinators tend to consume more alcohol among those who drink. It is another example of a coping mechanism that is in place to disengage from the feelings of stress and avoidance.
Why Is Procrastination Destructive To Our Lives?
Procrastination is subtle. Really subtle. The way it works is so subtle that it eats away voracious amounts of time and we don’t even realize it.How innocent it seems, to let time slip by. We deceive ourselves into dealing with it the next minute, next hour or the next day or month.
Somehow, we always feel that it will somehow get done by itself. Yet, at the end of the day, there still isn’t enough time to get things done. We know that life gives us it’s fair share and 24 hours a day to the rich, poor, famous, invalid, busy or lazy person. Time is fair in the sense that we have the choice to do exactly whatever we want with our 24 hours.
You get only 24 hours and not a second more or less.What makes procrastination so deadly is the fact that life is full of sob stories on how people had such a wonderful plan and a great idea that somehow, never came to life or conceptualized in the real world.
Imagine if Albert Einstein procrastinated and decided to write the theory of relativity much later while he played with his dog now (assuming he had one)? Or if Thomas Edison decided to invent the light bulb once he has got his things out of the way. Perhaps today we will still be using candles.
That is just a hypothetical example but you get the idea how destructive procrastination is.Procrastination must be dealt with. Period. You have to be very clear in your mind what the destructive effects of procrastination are and how you must deal with it NOW, not later.
Next week I’ll talk about the general mindset on how to deal with procrastination: Dealing with Procrastination: What we are up against.